What is True Love?

“The best thing about loving and being hurt is that you get to know what true love really is. For as gold is tested in fire, and so will love be perfected in pain.”
~Marvin Jay M. Torres

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What is True Love?

Many optimistic lovers expect to live happily ever after in the pure bliss of infatuation disguised as new love.  What a marvelous flight of fantasy—obstructed only by reality.  Love is bliss and that joy should be a part of every relationship.  But that’s definitely not all there is.

“What is True Love?” you ask

True love is about more than romantic gestures and having someone to cuddle up with at night.  It’s not just butterflies in your stomach and waiting by the phone for your lover’s call.  True love is something even greater than every dreamy date, passionate kiss and happy moment you can see in your mind’s eye.  It is what’s left over when they are gone.

Where can you find true love?  The answers to that question are infinite.  True love can be found in the silent pause that holds back a hurtful truth.  It’s in the strength that it takes to choose what’s best for someone else, even if it’s not what you want for yourself.  It’s in the beauty still seen when every trace of what’s accepted as beautiful has ceased to exist.

True love is in the comfort of a touch when the right words just can’t be found.  It’s in the willingness to forgive and the effort to forget. It’s in the support, understanding and commitment that keeps two people holding on when it’s much easier to let go.  And then there are times when true love is found behind the tear-filled eyes that walk away when every selfish desire wants desperately to stay.

The next time you stage your lips to utter the words, “I love you,” remember to show that love in every choice you make.

To give your beloved beautiful flowers is amazing, but it will never compare to treating them as a beautiful flower.  The same is true of diamonds, gold and anything you may treasure.  To love someone is to recognize their immeasurable value and the fragility of their heart.  Even on the darkest days, when facing the toughest decisions, let love guide you in the right direction.

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