Some people use soulmate for a romantic partner. Others use it for a friend, mentor or brief encounter that felt meaningful. If the word fits your beliefs, consider what you value about the connection and how the person treats you.
These three descriptions are prompts for reflection. One person can fit more than one, and a connection can change as your lives change.
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1. Someone who knows you over time
This might be a partner, sibling or friend who remembers what matters to you and makes room for your decisions. Think of a time you could disagree and still feel heard. You can appreciate that trust by saying what their support made possible for you.
2. Someone who helps you see another possibility
A friend or mentor might ask why you keep putting off something you care about. Their question can help you reconsider a choice. Give yourself room to decide what to keep. You can value an insight and still choose how much contact you want.
3. Someone whose brief company stays with you
A conversation while traveling or waiting for an appointment may help you feel understood. A brief exchange can matter on its own. If you would both like to stay in touch, you can make an invitation and respect the reply.
Ask what the connection brings into your life
Try “What do I appreciate about how we treat each other?” and “Is there anything I want to ask for or change?” You can hold on to what you learned even if a relationship ends.
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Connections that stay with us Three kinds of bonds people may call soulmates
- Someone who knows you well A person who has watched you change over time.
- Someone who opens a door A person whose support helps you see another option.
- Someone you knew briefly A short encounter that leaves you with something to keep.
- One question for all three What did the relationship bring to your life?
These experiences can include friends and family.