Your romantic relationship is deeply, intimately linked to your spirit’s calling. You can use knowledge of this connection to feed your spirit.
In this article, your spirit is understood as that divine spark in you that provides you with everything that you require to live a life filled with joy, love, and freedom. It’s the inspiring source of desire and staying present in each moment of your life.
We are spiritual entities that are living an incarnate life, not incarnate entities that are living a spiritual life. Things that your human component views as a challenge, such as unresolved conflicts in your relationships are perceived by your spirit as a chance to expand, evolve, grow, and feel better about your life and yourself.
Your Spirit is Coaxing You Ahead
Your spirit is constantly beckoning you ahead toward the life you genuinely desire. Your soul already knows when you have a profound desire. It also understands that you will receive what you ask for.
When you ask for something but you don’t believe you’ll receive it, you actually reap what you believe—that you won’t receive it.
Most people say, hear, and live by the old adage, “I’ll believe it when I see it.” But self-development expert Wayne Dyer said, “You’ll see it when you believe it.” Can you spot the difference? You may desire something, but if you believe you can’t actually acquire it, you are the main obstacle that’s preventing you from getting it.
Human Nature’s Paradox
This paradox is embedded in our human nature, so it’s best not to dwell on it. People often say they want something, then subconsciously sabotage themselves from getting it because they make up excuses why getting it isn’t possible.
For example, you may want to feel more love and connection in your romantic relationship. But you think, “Well, things have been like this for a while now, so how can I assume things could change?” Then weeks and months pass by, and you still long for a more loving and fulfilling relationship. But you’ve convinced yourself, “That’s probably not even possible. It would just take too much work. That’s just how these things go.”
Then years pass, and you still don’t have the relationship you want. Now you’re feeling stifled, and you don’t like the person you’ve become. You wonder, “How do other people even have healthy relationships? Where did I go wrong? Why did I stay?”
Beyond all these negative thoughts and feelings, your spirit still longs for something better. The negative emotions are rooted in your ignorance of your spirit’s calling.
Freedom is Your Spirit’s Oxygen
Your spirit knows it’s possible for you to have a healthy relationship. But your human nature’s limiting beliefs have you stuck somewhere you’d rather not be. These beliefs cause you to lose faith in yourself and in your ability to change for the better.
Israeli military leader turned peace crusader Moshe Dayan said that freedom is like your spirit’s oxygen. This makes a lot of sense, since everyone desires freedom. It also makes sense that if you’re being held back from living the life you want to live and the relationship you want to have, it feels like you’re suffocating from a lack of oxygen.
This is because you’re not feeling the freedom that comes from listening to your spirit’s calling. You’re not being true to yourself. Instead, you’re feeling the burden of trying to be somebody else and fit into somebody else’s definition of who you should be.
Being true to yourself shouldn’t feel like a challenge. It should feel natural. Unfortunately, many people have been conditioned or taught to think otherwise, that we must act a certain way to be accepted by others.
Acting Out of Character
So goes the stories of our lives. We play certain characters’ roles in search of acceptance from other people, and we sometimes stretch ourselves into playing inauthentic roles hoping to gain admiration and love.
After doing this for extended periods of time, your spirit still calls you back to the authentic you who has the freedom to truly be you with no pressure to please others—but you lose your sense of self anyway.
Your spirit is designed to help you live the best life possible. Struggles in romantic relationships are particularly stressful since these relationships play such a significant role in the way you perceive yourself and how you feel about your quality of life.
So, instead of anxiously perceiving your options as fight, flight or freeze, heed your spirit’s calling. Use the experience as an opportunity to grow. Learn how to identify and work through the patterns in the relationship that aren’t working for you anymore.
Listen to Your Spirit’s Calling
To successfully address these issues, you must nurture your soul. To rediscover and honor your genuine self, be honest about your feelings. Speak out when things aren’t going right or when you need something.
When you love yourself unconditionally, you’ll feel safe and comfortable in your own skin no matter what’s going on around you. This self-love is your birthright, and it’s how your spirit thrives!
Being true to your heart by addressing the “should I stay or should I go?” struggle is an ideal atmosphere for growth. Romantic relationships are significant. But your relationship with yourself is even more significant!
Your spirit is perfect divine power and intelligence that pervades every aspect of your being. This divine power also holds the planets in their places. This intelligence courses through you in every heartbeat, in every breath. And your spirit knows beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are worthy of being in a healthy, loving relationship. Listen to its calling!